Probably most people would agree that 2009 was a tough one . . . we’ve lost loved ones, experienced economic hard times, illness, stress, and worry. In my little world, I lost Spot, Amby, and Henny and Penny — dearly loved pets that gave us much happiness.
But, 2009 did provide opportunities. I reconnected with family and friends that I had been out of touch with for decades! I enjoyed many moments laughing with Onion Tears over silly silly things, my parents visited Lincoln, and Mister Man and I spent many pleasant times with our Soup Group friends.
Friendship is something I didn’t worry about much when I was younger. I was too busy being married, raising my daughter, going to school. We moved a lot and I didn’t invest too much in creating a social network of friends that I could count on (there’s more to this, but I’ll leave that part out for now).
Friendship in one’s middle-age (eek, don’t even like to say that) is great. We’ve worked out who we are, we don’t have to “keep up with the Jones” (or the Khardasians), we generally like ourselves and are comfortable in our skins (ok, except for those extra pounds). Maybe, also, since our children are all “growed up” [sic] we can take a little extra time to linger over dinner, drink a little more wine, and bask in the glow of good cheer. I feel fortunate to have really great wonderful people in my life as friends — every one from Miss Misam, Keith our 75 year old neighbor, to Soup Club, work colleagues, and my BFFs Mary and Cynthia. These are the people I see on a regular basis that make life more fun.
And I never thought that Facebook would make a difference. I’ve been able to reconnect with lots of people and keep in touch — even the minutiae of life that is SO much more interesting than anything on the news! I’ve laughed at photos from 25+ years ago, loved photos from weddings, recitals, birthday parties, and other celebrations I couldn’t attend. Thank you face book friends and family!
But, mostly I’m grateful that 2009 was kindly on my family. It’s hard to be away from my daughter and her partner, parents, my sister Shelly and her family. We weren’t able to make it back to Califas for Christmas . . . but did enjoy lots of fun in New Mexico over the summer with Mom, Dad, Larisa, and Nathan. I would live in a multi-generational household anytime (I used to say compound, but Larisa thought it sounded like a cult). I feel fortunate that we all enjoy relative good health and good prospects. We are looking forward to many more good times together in the near future.
So, before this gets too sappy, I’ll sign off with a Happy New Year . . . may 2010 be even better!
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